We’re cruising through the homestudy process and happily checking one box after another; excited to know that each day moves us closer to meeting our baby!
We’re just getting our feet wet in the world of adoption and yet we’re already seeing how much there is to learn and how many decisions adoptive parents have to make as they prepare to receive their child. Many of these decisions are big and deeply personal, like which country to adopt from and what form of adoption to pursue.
The first major decision we made was to pursue open adoption here in Colorado. Open adoption is easily misunderstood, so I thought I’d share what I’ve learned about it and a little bit about why it’s a good fit for our family.
What is Open Adoption?
Open adoption is when the biological and adoptive families share identifiable information and have the option of having contact with one another. Each open adoption is unique and the amount of contact between the families is up to the individuals involved. There is a spectrum; some families exchange contact information through their agency, some meet in person at the time of birth, some families exchange letters, phone calls, emails or pictures and some spend time with one another throughout the child’s life.
Each open adoption is different and there is no right or wrong way to do it. When we become our child’s parents, we will have all the rights and responsibilities that come with being parents so we will work to create the best situation for our child and we will establish our own unique dynamic with their birth family.
Why is open adoption right for us?
Wherever we land on the open adoption spectrum, we see it as an open door to our child’s history and heritage. We want our child to have answers to the big questions like- who do I come from and why was I placed for adoption. We want our child to know their unique story and we want to express our tremendous love and respect for their birth family.
A Great Responsibility
Open adoption gives us the great responsibility of stewarding and guarding our child’s story. This is their life we’re talking about and we will protect our child and their birth family by keeping some aspects of our adoption private. Our son or daughter will grow up knowing the miracle of their adoption and their story will belong to them; it will be theirs to share when they are ready.
I’m stating the obvious here- adoption, in any form, is a life-changing event for everyone involved. It’s emotional and deeply personal. And just like all expectant parents, we don’t know the details of what the future will bring. We don’t know what our open adoption will entail. What we do know is that we will work to provide the best life possible for our child and we’re praying our way through the maze of decisions with God’s loving hand leading us forward.
Thank you to all of you who are cheering us on during this beginning phase. We’re asking God to prepare us and strengthen us to be the parents our child needs and we are so blessed by your prayers and encouragement!